Posts Tagged ‘Money Feelings’

In my quest to explore emotions that people express through their money, I recently tapped into feeling vulnerable and unprotected.

Feeling unprotected can lead to life stories in which someone takes advantage of you, or you are left feeling very vulnerable. I experienced feeling unprotected recently when my roof started leaking and I had to find a solution. I called a number of roofers, got a variety of responses, and felt really vulnerable because of my lack of experience.

A friend took me up on my roof so I could see for myself what was going on and he helped me make a decision. But I became aware of how vulnerable and unprotected I sometimes feel. And I realized that a lot of people feel this way.

Just last week a report came out that stated that over the last seven years, the United States has not done enough to protect its citizens against terrorist attacks. This could be something we created, as a group, because we feel so unprotected.

Remember, the situation doesn’t cause the feelings, the feelings are the force behind the situation.

How are you expressing unprotected through your stories? Which of your financial fears indicate that you feel unprotected? There’s a good chance that if you have any money invested in the stock market that you feel vulnerable and unprotected.  Or perhaps you have no savings or cushion for emergencies, inadequate health insurance, or enough debt to cause ongoing discomfort. I would guess that in any of these situations you feel vulnerable.

These feelings usually start in childhood and would certainly be present in people who were abused or bullied in any way, had one or more alcoholic or addicted parents, or who had narcissistic parents. Anyone who has experiences homelessness, eviction, or bankruptcy would probably feel unprotected.

• If you think that unprotected is something you are expressing, here are some suggestions:
  Get in touch with and process the feelings so you no longer have the need to act them out through your finances or other life stories. There are techniques for doing this in Build Your Money Muscles The new Build Your Money Muscles for Financial Strength & Security program focuses on these techniques.
• Learn about the financial world. If you make financial decisions without knowledge, you are leaving yourself vulnerable to loss or being taken advantage of–or just screwing up your finances.
• Think about actions you can take to protect yourself. You may need to learn assertiveness techniques or other communications skills so you can stand up for yourself, in other words protect yourself, in any situation.

Resources:

• The Prosperity Show: Podcasts #17–Changing Your Money Feelings
• Build Your Money Muscles for Financial Strength & Security. A comprehensive six-month program guaranteed to improve your finances and your life!

Last week’s Prosperity Quick Tips about disappointment evidently really hit home for a lot of people. I received an unusual amount of email about it. So today, let’s take another step forward.

If you have an emotional pattern that shows up in your life stories such as disappointment, betrayal, abandonment, or any other uncomfortable emotion, then on a deep-down level you harbor an expectation of that experience. Because of the way the Law of Attraction operations, that expectation will lead to a result.

The same thing happens if you have a pattern of having life stories end in satisfaction, success, or getting your needs met. You will have an expectation of a favorable result and that’s what you will manifest.

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On yesterday’s teleclass, Working Through Your Money Issues, one of the participants admitted to being habitually disappointed in the outcomes of her life stories, expecially those that involve finances. Her habit was certainly not unique.

Many people have a disappointment habit, experiencing series of dramas that end in disappointment. Turning this around so that your like stories end with feelings of success and accomplishment requires that you first release your NEED for disappointment.

A disappointment habit is the result of holding in feelings of disappointment over an extended period of time. Those feelings keep looking for an avenue of expression and if you don’t express the feeling they will find that avenue through new life stories that magnify the feeling.
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When I first stepped onto the spiritual path in the early 1970s, a teacher said to me, “Worrying is a waste of time.” He puctuated this idea with another statement, “Anything negative is a waste of time.”

“What a concept!” I thought and spent many years learning how to replace worrying with a more producive mental activity. This one simple exercise led me in many different directions and allowed me to develop a way of perceiving life that has served me well.
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Regularly checking in with your money feelings can prevent financial stagnation–that feeling that you just can’t seem to move through your current financial position into a new one.

No matter how much emotional clearing you have done, there’s always another layer of emotions lying in wait, ready to hold you back. That’s because emotions are the bridge between our internal and external worlds. As you move towards a new financial position, the habitual emotions that have defined your current position have to be replaced by new emotional reponses that are in tune with where you want to be.

So, when you check in with yourself today, what are you feeling about your money? Are you feeling frustrated, limited, trapped, deprived, or angry? Or perhaps you feel satisfied with what you have, comfortable with what you are earning, or hopeful about your financial future.
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Because of cultural influences, people rarely reach adulthood with a clear understanding of their authentic selves. More often than not, identities are formed more out of the need to please caregivers than from authentic self-expression.

As a result, people experience a holding back, not just of who they are, but how they express themselves financially. Thus the common thought, "I should be earning more than I am" or a longing to reach a perceived true potential.

The prevalent feeling of being trapped in a particular financial position is the result of feeling trapped in an inauthentic persona. This also often stimulates feelings of abandonment (of self), deprivation, anger, and shame, all of which people tend to blame on external circumstances.

Self-help literature is filled with prescriptions for finding your authentic self. In this limited space, I can only give a few suggestions to move you forward:

• Remember the slogan: If one of us has to be uncomfortable, it doesn’t have to be me. Express your needs and give yourself permission to fill them.
• Learn how to express your feelings. I can’t stress how important this is to being in integrity with yourself.
• Do something today that you have always wanted to do but were afraid that others might judge you harshly for.

These three suggestions will point you in a new direction and help you create a new financial identity.

My book Build Your Money Muscles and the CDs Let Go of the Aloneness Blocking Your Prosperity and Healing Your Financial Shame have specific instructions for learning to express feelings without having to rekindle a lot of old hurts.

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