In my book Build Your Money Muscles, I identify the five main feelings that are expressed most often through money. They include abandonment/aloneness, shame, deprivation, a sense of being trapped, and anger, which we will look at today.

Anger is a very valid emotion. Yet in many cultures people are discouraged from expressing anger in a healthy way. As a result, anger is often repressed and turned inward. Your negative self-talk can be anger directed inwards.

Anger expressed through finances shows up in a number of ways. Borrowing money without paying it back, nonpayment of taxes, late bill paying, and compulsive spending can all be expressions of anger. (Think, “I’ll show you!”) Underearning and debting are two of the most common ways that anger finds itself in finances.

What I’ve come to understand is that underearning and debting are often self-directed passive-aggressive behavior. They are expressions of anger acted out towards oneself. Think about this and see if you can grasp the concept.

To work through this seriously unproductive expression of anger, try this technique based on the ancient Hawaiin method called Ho’oponopono popularized by Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len and Joe Vitale :

• With your eyes closed, take a deep breath  in and out, and say to yourself, “I love you.”  
• Focus on whatever feeling you may have about your financial situation. Then say to yourself, “I’m sorry. I am sorry that I have caused you to carry the burden of debt and underearning.” Sit quietly as you let this sink in.
• Take another breath and say to yourself, “Please forgive me.”
• Then say to yourself, “Thank you.”

Any time during the day that you feel the urge, say to yourself, “I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.” As you do this, tune into the hurt that may be in your heart and imagine loving energy pouring in and soothing that hurt as you say, “I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.” Let yourself breathe deeply.

To help you let go of the old patterns that cause underearning and debting, I’ve created a new audio package that contains a number of Be Set Free Fast (BSFF) treatments plus basic BSFF instructions. Read more about this audio package now!